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How To Overcome Burnout AND Find The Hidden Benefit It Brings

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Burnout can hap­pen to the best of us. But did you know there is a hid­den ben­e­fit to burnout you might nev­er have even thought of? Want to know more?

Then read on and you’ll see what I mean! Plus you’ll get a lot of great tips to over­come burnout and stay moti­vat­ed so you can live life on your terms!

If you are read­ing this, then like­ly you are a dri­ven per­son and you want to know how you can avoid burnout. You might even want to know how to over­come burnout before it stops you from work­ing at such a high pace…

Or maybe you are already wak­ing up tired, sleep­ing through your alarm and you feel less than won­der­ful. What if the secret to over­com­ing burnout isn’t to try to avoid it — but to care for your­self and look at the qual­i­ty of your life. Most peo­ple want to know how to be suc­cess­ful so they can live an amaz­ing life, and pro­vide one for their fam­i­ly… But often the key to suc­cess is right in front of you!

First let’s check in and ask:

What Is Burnout?

Burnout is a state of exhaus­tion caused from chron­ic stress. It leaves you feel­ing drained, and unable to focus or act effec­tive­ly. You become list­less, feel like you are forc­ing things to fit, and your stress is cre­at­ing even more more stress!

If you are ask­ing, do I have burnout? — Then the answer is most like­ly yes.

You might have burnout if you have any of these signs:

  • Exhaust­ed with chron­ic fatigue
  • Lack moti­va­tion
  • Feel frus­trat­ed, bit­ter and cyn­i­cal
  • Can’t focus + Start for­get­ting
  • Get cranky, snap­py and moody often
  • Have insom­nia
  • Start sab­o­tag­ing rela­tion­ships or impor­tant aspects in your life
  • Start drink­ing, over eat­ing, tak­ing drugs or engag­ing in oth­er escapist behav­ior

 

Exhausted With Chronic Fatigue

Often it starts out with feel­ing tired ear­ly, or sleep­ing through your alarm. But if left uncheck your tired­ness will steadi­ly progress to exhaus­tion. You’ll begin to feel like you are run­ning emp­ty — deplet­ed, exhaust­ed and no ener­gy left for your­self.

If you con­tin­ue to ignore it still, your body will send even stronger mes­sages, and it may break down into chron­ic fatigue. It will show up phys­i­cal­ly with an under-active thy­roid. The doc­tor might diag­nose hypothy­roidism.

This is ALL your body telling you that some­thing is wrong. Sound famil­iar yet? If not, take this as a heart­felt warn­ing that this can hap­pen if you ignore the prob­lem.

Lack Motivation

It makes sense that when you lack ener­gy, you also lack moti­va­tion. Moti­va­tion comes from an enthu­si­asm that dri­ves you for­ward. But more so — this enthu­si­asm needs to be topped up on a dai­ly basis.

If you are burnt out, feel­ing bit­ter, depressed or unhap­py — then you will not have the ener­gy, moti­va­tion or self-belief it takes to do the things that make you feel good.

So it becomes a vis­cous cycle! The more you feel burnout, the less you are moti­vat­ed. And the less you are moti­vat­ed to look after your health and well­ness or to pur­sue your goals — then you’ll feel an even deep­er lev­el of burnout on top.

Feel Frustrated, Bitter and Cynical

I touched in this in the point above… You will notice more neg­a­tive feel­ings, more neg­a­tive thoughts. You will use your thoughts to destroy your­self — or more like it, they will use you!

Have you ever noticed how when you go into neg­a­tive self-talk it can get worse and worse? This will cre­ate deep­er feel­ings that don’t go away until you deal with the under­ly­ing issue.

Can’t Focus + Start Forgetting

Burnout and chron­ic stress makes you feel like you are being threat­ened. It may seem like hocus pocus to some peo­ple — but this stress is direct­ly linked to how safe you feel. If you have high lev­els of cor­ti­sol — the stress hor­mone — then of course you aren’t going to func­tion well!

What’s more is that your body gets stuck in fight, flight or freeze (also knows as fight or flight) so your brain has no resources left to triv­ial details such as mem­o­ry. Think of it — in the scheme of life or death — stay­ing alert to flee, is a lot more impor­tant than remem­ber­ing a list of things to do that day!

And yes I know! It sounds crazy — but that is how we are hard­wired. We are pro­grammed to keep our­selves safe — and the type of stress that caus­es burnout is inter­pret­ed as a threat to your very well being!

Get Cranky, Snappy And Moody Often

Yes, some peo­ple are just cranky! (But I believe that’s a result of child­hood trau­ma — mild or oth­er­wise).

But when it comes to symp­toms of burnout — when you start feel­ing irri­tat­ed, or like noth­ing you do makes a dif­fer­ence it is a sure fire sign that some­thing is up.

Of course bad moods and off days are nor­mal for most peo­ple to some degree. But if it starts hap­pen­ing dai­ly, or more often than usu­al — then you are begin­ning to notice the ear­ly stages of burnout.

Have Insomnia

When you get stressed and go into burnout you start suf­fer­ing from hyper arousal — which is not a good thing, despite how it might sound! More than insom­nia, you can even get sleep but nev­er feel ful­ly refreshed. This is a major sign that burnout is hap­pen­ing to you.

Start Sabotaging Relationships Or Important Aspects In Your Life

This is a lit­tle talked about point — but when we start to burnout, we start act­ing in self destruc­tive ways that can dam­age rela­tion­ships, tank job oppor­tu­ni­ties and dis­tance from friends and activ­i­ties you love.

The prob­lem is, you are fol­low­ing your feel­ings. And your feel­ings are com­ing from a crap­py, self-defeat­ed place — so this means that by default — you will be tak­ing crap­py, self-defeat­ing actions. Enter self destruc­tion and self-sab­o­tage.

Start Drinking, Over Eating, Taking Drugs Or Engaging In Other Escapist Behavior

Burnout and addic­tion can eas­i­ly go hand and hand. Our nat­ur­al impulse is to want to feel bet­ter, which makes sense! But when you are already suf­fer­ing from chron­ic stress, this means you have been ignor­ing a sit­u­a­tion for quite some time.

So of course the next step is escapism. Unfor­tu­nate­ly burnout and addic­tion are a dan­ger­ous com­bi­na­tion. And it’s not just drug addic­tion, or alco­hol. It’s more than over eat­ing too. Although these are cer­tain­ly a known symp­tom of burnout…

Every­one checks out in dif­fer­ent ways. For some, it is through hours of Face­book. Or spend­ing too much mon­ey on the home shop­ping net­work, or going out to lav­ish din­ners and lead­ing a lifestyle above their means.

If you rec­og­nize your­self in this, be kind to your­self and take action to change the sit­u­a­tion that’s caus­ing burnout in the first place!

Causes Of Burnout

More and more peo­ple are expe­ri­enc­ing burnout every sin­gle day. In his arti­cle called Burnout And The Brain, Alexan­dra Michel reports that:

” Indeed, burnout arguably is reach­ing epic pro­por­tions in many indus­tri­al­ized coun­tries. Recent Gallup research, for exam­ple, showed that 2.7 mil­lion work­ers in Ger­many report feel­ing the effects of burnout. A 2013 sur­vey of human resource direc­tors in the Unit­ed King­dom found that near­ly 30% report­ed that burnout was wide­spread with­in their orga­ni­za­tion.”

It tru­ly is becom­ing an epi­dem­ic. More and more peo­ple every year are suf­fer­ing.

You can prob­a­bly tell so far that there are many dif­fer­ent caus­es for this irri­tat­ing issue so many peo­ple face. But, you might be sur­prised to know that they aren’t all work relat­ed. Yes, it is often part of it — but it goes deep­er than that.

Lets look at some of the fac­tors that cause burnout and chron­ic stress

Some of the reasons you might have burnout include:

  • Com­pro­mis­ing Your Val­ues
  • Being a con­trol freak with trust issues
  • Too much work, with­out help or sup­port
  • Lit­tle or no appre­ci­a­tion for your effort
  • Tox­ic work­place cul­ture
  • Tox­ic rela­tion­ships

 

Compromising Your Values

Your val­ues are your core beliefs about whats impor­tant to you. Tony Rob­bins teach­es about your blue­print, which is made up of how you believe your life should look.

If your actions, and lifestyle is not aligned with your blue­print, and there­fore your core val­ues — then you will be unhap­py, you will get stressed,  and you will burnout before long.

Being A Control Freak With Trust Issues

When you are the type of per­son who loves to be in con­trol of every detail AND you don’t trust your­self to make deci­sions, or you don’t trust that things will work out for you — then your con­stant need to con­trol will cre­ate mas­sive amounts of stress.

Too Much Work, Without Help Or Support

Do you ever feel like you have too much to do, and not enough time to do every­thing?

Do you ever feel like you are the one pick­ing up the slack, while oth­er peo­ple go home ear­ly or sim­ply aren’t there when you need them? This is a very real prob­lem that caus­es burnout, bit­ter­ness and resent­ment!

Little Or No Appreciation For Your Effort

It can be easy to give and give and not get any­thing back. Some peo­ple thrive on appre­ci­a­tion and feed­back, and if they are in a sit­u­a­tion where peo­ple are tak­ing them for grant­ed, AND they tak­ing on too much work then burnout, stress, depres­sion and resent­ment can breed eas­i­ly.

Toxic Workplace Culture

It seems pret­ty obvi­ous that the peo­ple you work or col­lab­o­rate with are going to have a sig­nif­i­cant effect upon your lev­els of hap­pi­ness. Is your work­place, or your busi­ness part­ners, or employ­ees a good match? Do they uplift you, or do they pull you down?

Toxic Relationships

Remem­ber how I said burnout isn’t all about work? Look at your rela­tion­ships with your friends, your part­ners and your fam­i­ly… If any of them are tox­ic, false, or unfair this will lead to an imbal­ance and will begin to affect dras­ti­cal­ly.

But the most impor­tant and real rea­son for burnout is next.

All of these issues above, are very real. BUT they are only symp­toms of a deep­er issue.

You Have Negative Programming In Your Subconscious Mind

Yes, that’s right — It is all hap­pen­ing because you are cre­at­ing it! So many peo­ple hate hear­ing this. They will fight it, and often they will have a very real rea­son as to why this issue doesn’t apply to them.

But you know what?

This just gives your pow­er away. First of all — it is true. And this is a sci­en­tif­ic fact, and an obvi­ous one when you have expe­ri­ence help­ing peo­ple to change their beliefs and heal old trau­ma.

When you ful­ly take respon­si­bil­i­ty, real­iz­ing that your actions led you down this path. When you admit that it’s your words, your ener­gy and who you are that caus­es peo­ple to treat you in a cer­tain way — for good or for bad — then you are in a very pow­er­ful place…

You know why?

Because if it’s all you, and you cre­at­ed this mess… That means you can also uncre­ate it!

Where­as if it is every­one else, then you will nev­er EVER be able to change your life for the bet­ter because oth­er peo­ple would always deter­mine what hap­pens to you.

If this is your first time hear­ing this, or you still aren’t quite sure — don’t wor­ry about it. But it is an absolute truth.

Look at arti­cles on it here, here and here.

The Benefits Of Burnout 

This may be a rad­i­cal stance, but if you are suf­fer­ing burnout than it means you are wak­ing up to some­thing that needs to change in your life.  It means there is clear­ly some­thing you are ignor­ing.

So many peo­ple try to ‘push through’ and make things work — even when it doesn’t feel right inside… And for cen­turies peo­ple could do that. But no longer. Peo­ple are wak­ing up.

And I believe this is why more and more peo­ple are expe­ri­enc­ing burnout. The mes­sage is clear — it is time for rad­i­cal change!

If you didn’t feel these neg­a­tive feel­ings — you wouldn’t know there was any­thing wrong. They are a clear mes­sage from your sub­con­scious that you sim­ply can NOT do this any­more.

So the ques­tion is — are you going to lis­ten?

Are you going to take this oppor­tu­ni­ty to find out what you real­ly want, and what would it take to cre­ate it? Or are you going to have a week­end off to chill out and calm down, and then get right back into the rat race?

I’m not say­ing that quit­ting your life and chang­ing it com­plete­ly has to hap­pen (but it might be!). Per­haps you need a few lit­tle tweaks — or one big change and that will fix every­thing

Ask your­self:

  • Are you REALLY hap­py in your rela­tion­ship?
  • Are you REALLY hap­py at your work?
  • Are you REALLY hap­py with the way you spend your morn­ings?
  • Are you REALLY hap­py and ful­filled with the choic­es you are mak­ing in your life?

See — what a gift!

Even though it is NEVER fun, nev­er nice and of course you wish it didn’t hap­pen… There is always a bless­ing in every sit­u­a­tion! More so, your neg­a­tive emo­tions hap­pen for a rea­son.

Soul search­ing and act­ing in align­ment IS impor­tant.

But so is self-care and stress man­age­ment. So is relax­ation, and hav­ing a fun lifestyle.

How To Overcome Burnout And Stay Motivated?

What a great ques­tion! How CAN you over­come burnout and stay moti­vat­ed? What steps CAN you take to chill out, relax and feel bet­ter about your­self? What would it take to allow your­self to let go of what’s not work­ing?

Some ways that have helped me to over­come burnout and stay moti­vat­ed, often include for­get­ting about moti­va­tion, and start look­ing with­in at what is real­ly impor­tant to me. Do good things for your­self and good things will hap­pen. Sounds obvi­ous — but it needs to be said!

Top tips to overcome burnout are to:

  • Let go of the inner strug­gle
  • Get hon­est about what you real­ly want
  • Take time off to treat your­self
  • Make sure you get enough sleep
  • Stop wor­ry­ing so much!
  • Lis­ten to a guid­ed med­i­ta­tion that involves rhyth­mic breath­ing
  • Try out bin­au­r­al beats and sub­lim­i­nal mes­sages
  • Use The Emo­tion­al Free­dom Tech­nique aka EFT Tap­ping
  • Pri­or­i­tize exer­cise above all else

 

 

Let Go Of The Inner Struggle

This can be eas­i­er said than done at first. But they key it instant­ly switch­ing out burnout and into relax­ation and reju­ve­na­tion — is to stop judg­ing your­self for being burned out. It’s to stop judg­ing your­self for not doing it right, or for tak­ing so long, or for mak­ing those big, or lit­tle mis­takes.

And it’s a phys­i­cal sen­sa­tion. When you think the pos­i­tive thought that just gives up this per­sis­tent need to con­trol — you will feel a sigh of relief. Your body will phys­i­cal­ly relax the very moment you stop judg­ing your­self.

This takes some inner work, self-improve­ment, and a lot of self talk — so that next time you hear that neg­a­tive judge­ment (which might be two min­utes lat­er) you remind your­self that you give up the judge­ment.

This real­ly is a valu­able tool that helped me to for­give myself for burn­ing out and mak­ing mis­takes. Once I stopped judg­ing myself so harsh­ly I was able to relax, and once I relaxed inspi­ra­tion and moti­va­tion began to grow again.

Get Honest About What You REALLY Want

As I said above — some­times a big part of burnout is that you aren’t lis­ten­ing to what you real­ly want, or need. I encour­age you to look at your life, and ask your­self: If you could change any­thing, what would that be?

And even if it seems impos­si­ble, or like it will rock the boat, or hurt or incon­ve­nience some­one — remem­ber — this is YOUR LIFE. You get to choose how you live it. Mak­ing the change now might be hard — but liv­ing with regret of a life lost to oblig­a­tion and fear is a tragedy. Don’t you agree?

Take Time Off To Treat Yourself

This may sound friv­o­lous to some — but it is essen­tial that you par­take in self-care and live a lit­tle! Have some fun. Do things that are good for you, like go to a spa day, or walk in the park bare­foot, or dri­ve some­where for a nice lunch.

What­ev­er it is that makes you feel good AND is for your best and high­est good — make the effort to do it! Not only are you help­ing your­self by look­ing after you — but you are help­ing your loved ones. Don’t you think you could be more lov­ing, present, kind and wise if you were relaxed and reju­ve­nat­ed?

Make Sure You Get Enough Sleep

Let your­self sleep! What is more impor­tant than your long term health and hap­pi­ness? Have you ever heard the say­ing: all you have is your health? And we all know by now that sleep is essen­tial for good health.

But What If You Can’t Sleep Because You Worry All Night? 

aka Stop Worrying

Insom­nia and being so over­tired you can’t sleep can make things a lot worse. For me, it always starts with a deci­sion, where I instruct my mind that now I am going to be HERE. Ful­ly HERE. I make it very clear that I want to be present, and I am ready to wind down.

Often you’ll keep your­self awake with neg­a­tive think­ing. Stress­ing and wor­ry­ing about the events of tomor­row. But  most of these things nev­er hap­pen! Except they are more like­ly to for you (if you wor­ry) because wor­ry is like pray­ing for some­thing you don’t want.

Except worse — because what you focus on, is always reflect­ed back to you in real­i­ty. Your mind can only see what you believe, and your beliefs are sim­ply thoughts that you think over and over again.

Listen To A Guided Meditation That Involves Breathing Rhythmically. 

Your breath is a gov­ern­ing force that con­trols your ner­vous sys­tem. Begin a prac­tice of deep breath­ing and you will soon see quick results.

Lis­ten­ing to guid­ed med­i­ta­tion and visu­al­iza­tions are a great use of time — espe­cial­ly for busy peo­ple who think they don’t have time! Give up, stop the judge­ment and give in to your well being.

You May Even Benefit From Binaural Beats

Bin­au­r­al beats is a type of spe­cial­ly designed music that has the abil­i­ty to change your brain­waves. Many of them are mixed with sub­lim­i­nal mes­sages — but not all. And they are EFFECTIVE!

A few years ago my hus­band was on the verge of  ner­vous break­down. He was stressed from work, I was out of the coun­try, and he had some fam­i­ly issues going on too… Since I was abroad I felt pret­ty help­less.

I rec­om­mend­ed he tried bin­au­r­al beats to over­come stress — and at first he wouldn’t! But right at the point it got real­ly bad, he relent­ed out of des­per­a­tion. The very next day, he all of a sud­den felt bet­ter, and told me that he believed every­thing was get­ting bet­ter and would be OK.

This was a dras­ti­cal­ly dif­fer­ent view­point from what he had been hold­ing for over a month before­hand. Your brain is where it’s at. So this brings me to my next point, which has helped me so, so much!

The Emotional Freedom Technique aka EFT Tapping

The Emo­tion­al Free­dom Tech­nique gets it’s name because it frees you from the neg­a­tive emo­tions that over­come you. Think of it… When you are trapped in stress, burnout, anx­i­ety, resent­ment — you do not feel free. You are con­trolled by these emo­tions that a lot of the time — you just can’t stop. Right?

EFT Tap­ping uses your bod­ies nat­ur­al ener­gy sys­tem com­bined with a type of talk ther­a­py that is very dif­fer­ent from the way you usu­al­ly speak to your­self. It is all about admit­ting what you real­ly feel and send­ing it com­pas­sion, while using your merid­i­an sys­tem to move ener­gy (the exact same body sys­tem used in acupunc­ture — but this time with­out the nee­dles).

Think of your body like a riv­er. Imag­ine you have all these neg­a­tive expe­ri­ences — these rocks and debris that fall into the riv­er and block the path. So the water build up like a damn. Using your fin­ger­tips to tap on your body while you admit what you’re feel­ing AND send it com­pas­sion actu­al­ly releas­es the pres­sure.

It’s like you removed all the stones from the riv­er and it could flow again. So rather than feel­ing this pent up stress, exhaus­tion or what­ev­er your per­son­al brand of suf­fer­ing is — your ener­gy flows free again — and you become clear, hap­py and moti­vat­ed.

This is a fact. It has been proven among mil­lions of peo­ple who got results — includ­ing myself!

Try it — it real­ly does work!

Prioritize An Exercise Routine Above All Else

The last point I have to share is real­ly per­fect. Exer­cise like it is the most impor­tant thing in The World! I don’t mean — go real­ly hard and hurt your­self. No. I mean what­ev­er you do, make sure you spend time each day get­ting a sweat on, mov­ing oxy­gen through your body and clear­ing your sys­tem of tox­ins.

This comes from exer­cise. It real­ly is effec­tive and impor­tant. My top tip is to always get your stuff ready the night before and put it right next to your bed — even your run­ners and socks.

If you are tak­ing an iPod, make sure it is charged and next to the bed, or right next to the door so you can pick it up on your way out. It’s real­ly impor­tant and it will clear things up for you, help release stress and sta­bi­lize your emo­tions.

So what tips did you res­onate with most? You now know that:

Signs of burnout can include:

  • Exhaust­ed with chron­ic fatigue
  • Lack moti­va­tion
  • Feel frus­trat­ed, bit­ter and cyn­i­cal
  • Can’t focus + Start for­get­ting
  • Get cranky, snap­py and moody often
  • Have insom­nia
  • Start sab­o­tag­ing rela­tion­ships or impor­tant aspects in your life
  • Start drink­ing, over eat­ing, tak­ing drugs or engag­ing in oth­er escapist behav­ior

Burnout symptoms can be caused from:

  • Com­pro­mis­ing your val­ues
  • Being a con­trol freak with trust issues
  • Too much work, with­out help or sup­port
  • Lit­tle or no appre­ci­a­tion for your effort
  • Tox­ic work­place cul­ture
  • Tox­ic rela­tion­ships
  • You have neg­a­tive pro­gram­ming in your sub­con­scious mind

 

And finally — some amazing strategies to overcome burnout are to:

  • Let go of the inner strug­gle
  • Get hon­est about what you real­ly want
  • Take time off to treat your­self
  • Make sure you get enough sleep
  • Stop wor­ry­ing so much!
  • Lis­ten to a guid­ed med­i­ta­tion that involves rhyth­mic breath­ing
  • Try out bin­au­r­al beats and sub­lim­i­nal mes­sages
  • Use The Emo­tion­al Free­dom Tech­nique aka EFT Tap­ping
  • Pri­or­i­tize exer­cise above all else

 

Burnout can be a nasty, self-destruc­tive expe­ri­ence that makes you feel out of con­trol and like noth­ing will work out. But I want you to know that things will and can change. But first you need to change a habit and start doing some­thing new to cre­ate a chain reac­tion.

So what tip will you com­mit to doing in your life so you can avoid or over­come burnout and get the peace, rest and reju­ve­na­tion you AND your loved ones deserve!

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